August 2022 “There is no grief like the grief that does not speak” - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow The Bible tells us to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger (James 1:19). Good advice of course!! I grew up trying to live by those principles...

July 2022 ‘Parental grief is forever boundless, an ever-present, deep-seated wound that has no name. There’s a reason no label has been ascribed to those who have lost a child — it is too foreign a concept, a much too chaotic form of brain freeze, an...

April 2022 Inverted:‘Changed from the normal position by being turned upside down or arranged in the opposite order’https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/inverted Absence is the opposite of presence. When a precious child dies everything is inverted. Our lives feel like they’ve been turned upside down and rearranged in the opposite order....

March 2022 Life grinds to a halt when you lose a loved one. It feels like you’re suspended in a time warp - stuck between the life you knew and the life you don’t want to know. You can’t go back and dread going forward. But...

February 2022 It’s now over three years since our world fell apart. 39 months since our darling boy happily walked out through the front door and never came home. 1213 days of barely functioning under the weight of the worst pain I have ever known -...

December 2021 ‘From the outside looking in you can never understand and from the inside looking out you can never explain…’ Three years ago I remember staring at this image and reading the words over and over again. I found it hard to believe that in one...

October 2021 I borrowed the heading from the title of an old 1944 Humphrey Bogart film. ‘To have and have not’… that’s just how it is. What appears to be a contradiction is actually reality for those of us trying to live with and without a...

September 2021 “There is a gentle ease that comes with knowing grief and being around others who know grief too. It’s a connection that allows for understanding the unspoken, a connection that makes explaining unnecessary.”@griefuncovered Three years ago I could never have imagined that I would be...

September 2021 Jude’s blackboard - Arusha Tanzania September 2018 - three years ago. I wrote this message on the blackboard at my friend’s Tanzanian apartment just a few weeks before Ben died. My husband Paul and I were having the most awesome three-week holiday in Africa. Life...

August 2021 ‘Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory’ - Dr Seuss It’s strange the things that randomly pop into your head. Simple little events that didn’t seem particularly significant at the time suddenly become beautiful memories that we thought...