On 7th October 2018 normal ended and we have had to watch life go on without our darling boy.
One moment life was normal, then it wasn’t.
One moment we had a complete family, then we didn’t.
‘I used to think things like this only happened to someone else…
Now I know – we’re all someone else to someone else!’
Your story will be different to mine but whatever your loss – your world has changed. I know now there are some things that can’t be understood unless you’ve lived them.
I’ve found unexpected comfort in being surrounded by so many beautiful broken people who know what my kind of grief is like. I write to try and make sense of what we all feel!
Grief changes us!
My prayer is that as we try to put the broken pieces of our lives back together we will find little glimmers of hope and joy that will give us the strength to keep going!
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With love
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