On 7th October 2018 Ben died. He was twenty five.
One moment everything was normal, then it wasn’t.
One moment we had a complete family, then we didn’t.
‘I used to think things like this only happened to someone else…
Now I know – we’re all someone else to someone else!’
Everyone grieves differently, every family is unique and everyone has their own story. But grief hurts for us all and when you lose someone special it changes your world. Forever. Nothing will be the same again. And I now know there are some things you can’t possibly understand until you’ve lived them. I simply had no idea it would be like this!
I’ve found unexpected comfort in connecting with other broken people who share this same kind of grief so I keep writing to clear my head and try and make some sense of what we probably all feel.
It would be an honour if you would join me on this heartbreak journey – one that we certainly didn’t choose, definitely don’t want and could never have anticipated!
Please feel free to use my Facebook page to keep in touch. I’d love to hear from you. @theonemoment2020
With love
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