On 7th October 2018 normal ended and we have had to watch life go on without our darling boy.
One moment everything was normal, then it wasn’t.
One moment we had a complete family, then we didn’t.
‘I used to think things like this only happened to someone else…
Now I know – we’re all someone else to someone else!’
Everyone grieves differently, every family is unique and everyone has their own story. But grief hurts and when you lose someone special it changes your world forever. Nothing will ever be the same again. And I now know there are some things you can’t possibly understand until you’ve lived them.
I’ve found unexpected comfort in being in the company of other broken people who share this same kind of grief. I write to try and make some sense of what we probably all feel.
Trying to hold onto to any little nuggets of hope seems to give me just enough strength to keep putting one foot tentatively in front of the other – taking one day at a time.
It would be an honour if you would join me on this heartbreak journey – one that we certainly didn’t choose, definitely don’t want and could never have anticipated!
Please feel free to use my Facebook page to keep in touch. I’d love to hear from you. @theonemoment2020
With love
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